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Do you know what your kid is posting on Facebook?

Recently a kid named Hannah blocked her parents from her facebook page and then proceeded to post a rant on her page about having to do chores around the house. Of course, her dad saw that rant and made a video response to his daughter.

There has been a huge response from parents everywhere and many of the Wired Moms sent messages to make sure I saw the video too.

There are a number of things going on here.

1. It’s important to have natural consequences for bad behavior – when a child brings home a bad grade the natural consequence would be to impose more study time at home not necessarily to take away their iPod. Removing an iPod does not help your kid get a better grade. This video seems to be a demonstration of natural consequences (even though it is a little extreme ).

2. Technology is a privilege not a right.

3. It is important for parents to be involved with their kids online life. If you have a child over the age of 13 (even though many kids under 13 also get pages) there is a very high likelihood that they have facebook page, a tumblr, a twitter and possibly other pages like MySpace. First of all talk with your kid but then also Google them.

Watch the video and then let us know what you think.

PS Many people have said that the Dad should have just sold the laptop to recoop his software expenses. But after watching the video with my kids they all agreed that this guy could still sell the laptop as is on Ebay and get way more for it than he spent on the software. This laptop is now Legendary.

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Mary Heston of Wired Moms Talks about Internet Safety in Sumner Washington

On Tuesday educators from five school districts met in Sumner, Washington to learn about Cyberbullying.  New Washington state laws directly impact how educators are being asked to deal with the overlap of cyberbullying off school grounds and child safety on school grounds.

Mike Donlin, Program Supervisor for the School Safety Center division of the Office of Superintendent of Public Instruction, OSPI, opened up the session with an explanation of the 2002 law that has been recently updated and has new requirements that will be mandated beginning this next school year.  He explained the updated definition of Cyberbullying and the educators requirements to deal with the issue in the school system.

After the first session, the educators broke into small groups where they chose from three sessions.  Mike Donlin continued to dig into the new law and cyberbullying from the perspective of the OSPI,  Mary Heston and Marjie Knudsen led a session talking about the importance of Peer to Peer programs in preventing cyberbullying particularly the Teenangel program sponsored by WiredSafety, and Sue Eastgard, MSW, Director of Youth Suicide Prevention Program talked about at risk youth.

The entire group took a break for pizza and then went into the evening program.

Mary Heston and Marjie Knudsen spent the evening with the educators presenting strategies for improved communications with our kids.  Marjie brought the message of “Public and Permanent”.  Think before you post.

Mary’s program titled “Parents Action Now! Internet Committee” or PANIC – stressed to parents and educators that we really do NOT need to PANIC.  We need to remember that technology is a part of our children’s lives and we need to embrace it and work with our kids to learn how to make good choices while using these new technologies.  Examples were given and discussed by a review of several recent news headlines that highlited these issues.

It was a great program that was coordinated by Sumner’s CTO, Sandy Maynard, and Marilee Hill-Anderson along with several other dedicated school district employees – Thanks Sunny – and the technology expert / Youth Minister at Sumner Presbyterian – Thanks Greg!

For more information on inviting Mary to come to speak to your group please send us an email at wiredmoms@gmail.com.

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– by Mary Heston

For some of us a bit older we remember Jan’s mantra from the Brady Bunch “Marsha Marsha Marsha” everybody’s always talking about Marsha.

This last week it was facebook.  Everywhere you turn the talk is about facebook.

California wants to make a law about parental access to children’s facebook accounts
(editorial comment: this is ridiculous)

Then we learn there are over 7.5 million kids under the age of 13 on facebook

A 13 year old in Tacoma WA is questioned by the Secret Service about a status update

AND Police suggest Stealing your kids Facebook passwords

I happen to think the world is just possibly losing its collective mind!  This is ludicrous.  First of all we need to start handing parents a couple of cojones when it comes to technology and having them start parenting their child in their kids digital world as well as the physical world (barely any distinction for our kids any more).  

Parents: 

    •  Be Strong. 
    • Keep your kids off of facebook until they are 13.  That is the facebook terms of service and the guideline is there for a reason.  There are alternatives out there.  Be proactive and help your kids use the Internet appropriately.
    • As long as they are living in your house and are under the age of 18 – they share their password with you and only you. 
    • Help guide them in their social networking.  Work through it together. 
    • Don’t keep them from social networking sites – this is their world now – help them embrace it.  If you forbid them from having a site that will be all the more enticement for them to go out and create their own site without your input or information.

 


You don’t hand your child the keys to the car until they have taken driver’s ed.  Social Networking can bean even more powerful tool – make sure they get the training before they go out on the roads by themselves at 1am in the morning.  A good way to do this is to get them involved in theTeenangel program 

If you are still worried after they have set up their site there is a new product that was just released this week that you may want to check out.  Visit MinorMonitor to find out more about ways to receive alerts about your childs online presence.

My daughter has been on Twitter for a year and a half and has at times complained about the fact that none of her other young friends in real life are on Twitter.  But she told me recently that alot of kids she knows are now getting on Twitter because their parents got on them about their facebook accounts.  She said she was sort of amazed how many parents don’t even know their kids are on these various sites and that if the parents do find out about them and tell the kids to close it down the kid just goes to a different platform with a different name.  

We need to have a more open and honest conversation with our kids about their life online.  In the 90’s we heard about the helicopter parents that absoultely hovered over their kids’ every move.  Perhaps the second decade of the millenium parents will become known as the Ostrich parents.  Time for us to get our heads out of the sand and take a look around.  Our kids ARE online.  Let’s join them!

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$10,000 per tweet? Really Kim?

The Power of the Tweet
– by Mary Heston

I love Twitter.  Even before twitter came on the scene my younger brother would say to me “If you can’t say it to me in less than 160 characters I don’t want to hear it”.  Not sure why he picked 160 but it turns out he was pretty much right on.

Twitter works for me.  It is great exchanging fast info with people from around the world.  And I consider anyone out there who can consistently make me laugh in 140 characters or less a comic genius.

The other great thing about twitter is that you don’t have to be “friends” to “follow”.  Following is a loose endorsement.  The million followers of Charlie Sheen are certainly not endorsing his behavior.  They are just more curious about what the guy is going to say or do next.  You can have thousands of followers which does not necessarily say you have thousands of friends.

On facebook and other social networking sites you are basically endorsing the person or business when you “like” them.  You are telling the world – yes I know this person/business and they are good.  Not necessarily the same thing with twitter.

So, where does that leave us today?

After 5 years Twitter is still growing and finding its way.  In a most interesting article in the Spokesman-Review this morning there is a case being filed in Federal Court over who owns the tweets.

READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE HERE (this is a great article including info on how Kim Kardasian gets $10,000 per tweet for an endorsement)

Join the conversation on Facebook or Twitter – Do you love it or hate it?  Do you Tweet?

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